Why Doesn’t He Love Me?
Right now I’m listening to “Why
Don’t You Love Me?” by Beyonce. Here’s a little taste of the
lyrics:
http://blip.fm/listen/Beyonce:
Why don't you love me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you love me
When I make me so damn easy to love?
Why don't you need me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you need me
When I make me so damn easy to need?
There's nothing not to love about me
No, no, there's nothing not to love about me
I'm lovely
There's nothing not to need about me
No, no, there's nothing not to need about me
Why don't you love me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you love me
When I make me so damn easy to love?
Why don't you need me?
Tell me, baby, why don't you need me
When I make me so damn easy to need?
There's nothing not to love about me
No, no, there's nothing not to love about me
I'm lovely
There's nothing not to need about me
No, no, there's nothing not to need about me
If I had a dollar for every time
I’ve heard a woman say that, or thought or said those words myself. Just like
you, I’m a great catch. I’m educated, have a great career, have an awesome
personality, and have many wonderful qualities to offer a man. So why can’t I
get a man to see how awesome I am? Why won’t a man just fall madly in love with
me and not be able to live without me and marry me and work every day to make me
happy?
Dear Lord in Heaven please help
me to get over myself.
Yes, you are wonderful. You’re
an amazing woman that a guy would be crazy to give up, but guess what… a guy may
be madly in love with you, but he’ll still give you up if he doesn’t think
you’re the right woman for him. That’s just how life is. Sometimes you get the
guy you want, but he’s not the guy you need. Sometimes you get the guy you need,
but it’s not the right time, or he’s not the right one a year down the road. We
all grow and change over time. Sometimes in a relationship we grow and change
together, but sometimes we grow apart and realize that we don’t have anything in
common any more.
If I had a dollar for every time
I’ve heard a woman say that, or thought or said those words myself. Just like
you, I’m a great catch. I’m educated, have a great career, have an awesome
personality, and have many wonderful qualities to offer a man. So why can’t I
get a man to see how awesome I am? Why won’t a man just fall madly in love with
me and not be able to live without me and marry me and work every day to make me
happy?
Dear Lord in Heaven please help
me to get over myself.
Yes, you are wonderful. You’re
an amazing woman that a guy would be crazy to give up, but guess what… a guy may
be madly in love with you, but he’ll still give you up if he doesn’t think
you’re the right woman for him. That’s just how life is. Sometimes you get the
guy you want, but he’s not the guy you need. Sometimes you get the guy you need,
but it’s not the right time, or he’s not the right one a year down the road. We
all grow and change over time. Sometimes in a relationship we grow and change
together, but sometimes we grow apart and realize that we don’t have anything in
common any more.
From now on, be your own best friend. If you would give words of comfort and encouragement to your best friends during a breakup or rocky patch, why wouldn’t you give it to yourself? We all have the same script we follow when it comes to consoling our girlfriends; use it on yourself after a breakup. I don’t encourage the man hating though – it doesn’t accomplish anything. He isn’t a jerk for not wanting to be with you anymore. He’s just being honest. Would you rather he lead you on for another year?
Let me rant a minute about the
whole "leading you on" concept...unless he is an accomplished con artist after
you for a large inheritance, there's no such thing. Come on, think about how
many times he's tried to tell you or show you he wants out but you wouldn't give
him an easy out. You knew what he was doing, but you started with the excuses,
begging, denying it, trying to make changes, etc. Your man doesn't want to hurt
your feelings by coming right out and telling you he doesn't want to be with
you, but his actions will speak loud and clear about what his intentions are.
You've been engaged for a year but he won't discuss setting a date? He doesn't
want to kiss you anymore? "Yes, baby, I still want to be with you" but he won't
spend time with you anymore? He doesn't tell you he loves you anymore? In the
words of Bill Engvall...here's your sign.
If your relationship isn’t meant
to be...it doesn’t matter how educated you are, how well you cook, how fit and
trimmed your body is, etc…he isn’t going to stay with you. Stop wasting your
time thinking about how great you’ve been to him and how he just doesn’t see how
wonderful you are. A square peg won’t fit into a round hole no matter how hard
you try to make it fit. Accept the fact that he isn’t the man you’re supposed to
be with, and move on.
There is a man out there who
will love you, need you, and appreciate everything you have to offer without you
having to constantly prove yourself to him. He’ll be in the
relationship willingly without you having to blackmail, manipulate, and remind
him of everything you’ve done for him or how much you’re worth. Go find him and
quit wasting your time on someone who isn’t right for you.
A poem by me:
I’m ugly.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I’m intense.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I never fight back.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I don’t know how to cry.
Why doesn’t he love me?
In fact, I show no emotion at all.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I hate my voice.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I avoid people to avoid judgement.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I want to smash my reflection.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I fuck up every situation.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I can’t take criticism.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I’m not good at anything.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I overanalyze everything.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I don’t respect myself.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I let other people control my life.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I live mostly in my head.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I run away from everyone including myself.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I don’t think I have a heart.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I’m stupid.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I hate myself.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I hate everything about myself.
Why doesn’t he love me?
I don’t love myself.
Why should he?
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