I wish you love

I wish she gives you the happiness that she deserves and that she makes you a better man.  I wasn't the one for you, but the ecstatic feeling that came over me every time I saw you made my entire day.  Love is a wonderful feeling, even when you have to endure heartbreak.  I don't regret meeting you and falling in love with you.

Is it the one with the video editing skills? Who posts pictures up of herself everyday while you're away to entice you to come back into her bed?  She's got beautiful grey eyes, but she seems a bit too wild for your taste. 

I want to forget

I still love you even though I'm starting to forget you.  I wish I can forget you faster. 

They say that oxytocin (the love chemical) stays in a man's body for around two days, where it'll say in a woman's body for 14 days.  Makes me wonder if it'll take 7 times longer for me to get over him as it did for him.  I think it took him about two weeks.

You're such an idiot.

From AskMen - the most iconic player

I read this article on AskMen and realized that my former paramour shares a lot of these Warren Beatty characteristics.

How many times does a lover cross a star before he travels the universe? At least as many times that Tinseltown playboy Warren Beatty has shared the bed with his multitudes of famous women. And that doesn’t include the ones who have bragged about being one of “Warren’s Girls.”

The name might not be so recognizable these days to the younger generations (which makes me feel beyond my years saying that), but he was a star on the big screen, acting in and producing such memorable films as Bonnie and Clyde, Heaven Can Wait, Reds, Dick Tracy, and Bugsy. However, just as famous as he was for acting, Warren Beatty was known for having some of the most lecherous eyes in Hollywood. In fact, he was one of the most notoriously single bachelors in his time, and garnered quite the reputation as a proud lady killer. Any Player capable of publicly stating, "My notion of a wife at 40 is that a man should be able to change her, like a bank note, for two 20s," is well-deserving of his Player status.

However, the best part about Warren Beatty was that he was one of the most likable characters in Hollywood, and his exes thought the same thing. He bedded more women over the span of his entire 40-year film career than he made movies, and this man has a pretty hefty list of film and acting awards under his belt. Before he married his current lady Annette Benning in 1992, Warren Beatty was a true dichotomist, a talented jack-of-all-trades entertainer in Hollywood, but he was also a true seduction artist with a fine-tuned game that left many notable women in awe of his romantic touch. Always one to take a cue from a man of his status, here are some tips from Warren Beatty’s game that made him a hit with the ladies and a true world-renowned Player.

Be passionate

Passion -- an accomplishment that many guys think they’ve got in the bag, but are actually far from it. A passionate romance is the silver bullet for a great hookup, but is the hardest Player trait to maintain -- it is perpetual, it can’t be forced, it is built with chemistry, spontaneity, and a full understanding of your girl’s mental game, and most guys think they have it when, really, they don’t. Women are emotional creatures; you’ll rarely find a girl who has a stone-cold demeanor and an equally soulless personality to boot. They like emotion; they like passion; they like guys who please them intellectually, romantically and, of course, sexually. Many guys attempt it, only a few succeed at it, and even fewer can maintain it. However, it remains a challenge nonetheless, especially for the Player looking to make the most of his relationships.

Women know when passion exists; they have a sixth sense for it, and you’ll know when you’ve made that ever-important connection -- you can feel passion for your partner. If we take a look at how Warren Beatty accomplished this many times over, we realize it’s not really what he said about it, but rather his girlfriends who held him on a pedestal for his intense, emotionally charged romantic escapades. Goldie Hawn boasted about his passion for her as more than just a sexual feeling: “It was about the tenderness,” she proclaimed after experiencing Warren Beatty’s style. Elizabeth Taylor went one step further: “Out of 10, I’d give him a 15.” I’d say that’s pretty good endorsement and a testament to the passion that Warren Beatty embodied. When your exes are still giving you rave reviews, you must be doing something right, and Warren Beatty was a master at it.

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Keep your cool

A good Player is one who never cracks under pressure; he can make the recovery and come across with the same dignity and class he started with before he made his move. Likewise, whether the pickup goes great or not, a Player never turns into an emotional waterfall; girls don’t like a sob story, and men just look stupid gushing about things that make her uncomfortable. Women have an uncanny ability to lose interest in guys who can be broken down easily, so keep the stiff upper lip. Keep your cool when the going gets tough (but remember to be candid when it’s called for, as will be discussed later in the article).

Warren Beatty was excellent at keeping his composure when he was rejected or when he ended a relationship; he never let his emotions get the best of him. For instance, his old flame Carly Simon seemed so disenchanted with Warren Beatty and his flick-of-the-switch “love ‘em and leave ‘em approach” that her hit single “You’re So Vain” was rumored to be about her disdain for Warren Beatty moving onto his next girlfriend, Natalie Wood. Warren’s response? “Thanks for the song,” and he then proceeded to charm the pants off Natalie Wood. No one really knows if the song was an allusion to the bed-hopping Beatty but, rest assured, Warren Beatty didn’t even flinch when it ended, a textbook example of moving on from an ex and also a great Player quality.

Players balance their time

Remember the bank note quote? If this were said today by any mainstream figure, it would be sneered and jeered by everyone on the spectrum. Still, even though these words came from the horse’s mouth, it was simply Warren Beattty being Warren Beattty, playing up his status as a “womanizer” when, in reality, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

Here is a man who prided his relationships on being in control. That’s not say he was controlling by any means, but rather he was the one who dictated his own destiny when it came to women. Warren Beatty was not a pushover; he wooed the woman with his good looks, natural charm and self-imposed rule of not getting too tied down by any one person (that, of course, ended with his eventually marriage to Annette Benning). He also found time to pursue other hobbies outside of being a Player; Warren Beattty was one of the hardest-working guys in the film industry, devoting much of his time to his acting and producing career, traveling and taking time off at will. He also worked tirelessly as a Democratic Party activist, including flirting with the idea of running as a Democrat for the 2000 election (which he ended up not pursuing). Regardless of what took up his time, Warren Beatty kept an interest in relationships, but never at the cost of his hobbies. Likewise, good Players never put all their eggs in one basket; they are able to manage their time, resources and efforts in a healthy balance of work, home and lifestyle.

Some final lessons from Warren Beatty...

Be subtle

At times, it would seem like Warren Beattty is a walking contradiction -- he never raved about his love life; he took the high ground and kept his mouth shut when it came to personal matters, and it was only when prodded by curious journalists or other inquisitive minds would he mention anything about it -- a shenanigan recluse, of sorts. Still, when he did talk, he talked candidly and with a tone of confidence that portrayed him as accepting of his dubious relationships with women -- or, in his own words, “It was what it was." Warren Beatty wasn’t a "closet" Player by any means; he walked tall, and men and women alike took notice.

The same principle can apply to your game as well, especially since the same problems and challenges that existed for Players back in Warren’s day still exist for the modern man. Warren Beatty would lock his sights on a woman and use all of his inner resources to captivate her time and time again. His relationship with Julie Christie, for example, was so important to him that he even publicly called her his "wife," albeit they never tied the knot. Still, he remained subtle about his relationships and let his critics and fans draw their own conclusions. This is the calling of a true Player -- you don’t draw attention to yourself, but you do make yourself honestly candid with her in an intimate setting; confidence in your game will bridge that gap. Our boy Warren Beatty followed this to a tee, and his status as a sex symbol was cemented as a result of his discreet but sincere nature.

beatty summed up

It's ironic how a man whose unofficial status of "Hollywood Playboy" managed to fall in love and tie the knot before his aptly named Love Affair (despite the fact the film was loosely based on his relationship with Annette Benning), but life throws its quirks in the weirdest places. Warren Beatty managed to hold out until the ripe age of 54 before deciding to settle down, and it was without regret and with a legendary status that he did so, almost like riding off into the sunset for the closing shot of a great Western movie.

Like a skilled ventriloquist, Warren Beatty managed to dangle his relationships in one hand and his acting career in other, and all over the course of a brilliant 40-year career in Hollywood, starting at Splendor in the Grass (1961) all the way to Bugsy (1991). Women wanted him, men wanted to be him, and all because he exemplified the true colors of a Player -- smart, witty, confident, charming, and above all, unique. These qualities aren’t hard to adopt and maintain; you just have to be prudent about yourself, know what you want and understand the women you choose to pursue. It also doesn’t hurt to have an Academy Award under your belt; but remember Players, one step at a time.

http://m.askmen.com/dating/player_200/228_love_games.html

Regret

I don't regret loving you.  Like I wrote in my previous email, meeting you changed me for the better. 

It's definitely a hurdle getting over you for you're quite difficult to forget.  I truly hope that you find real love again for the euphoria of it is matched by nothing else.

Compassion

i've never had to pursue a guy before but that's probably because i was asexual and indifferent towards men for a pretty long time until i discovered my sexuality. 

 

i also dated a guy for a really long time, so that's why my game is off-kilter and have not acted appropriately in so many situations.

 

all i know from studying and accomplishing other pursuits is that effort and perserverance pays off.  but feelings, sadly, don't work that way.  you tried to warn me about that ... haha 

 

i realize that you'll probably never again see me in a desirous way and avoiding burning any bridges, you're waiting for me to relent. 

 

thanks if that is what you're doing cause that's awfully nice.  i don't know why i'm not completely over you yet. 

 

two months already since i last saw you.  it's quite pathetic and i'm internally screaming at myself to move on.

 

but my brain, my heart, my gut, and my vag are constantly at odds with each other. 

 

i don't want anything with you, and yet i do.

 

you're too bohemian and risk-taking and indifferent, and yet you're adventurous and charismatic and liberal.

 

you're not going to stick around, but you make me feel like nothing else matters.

 

you're never around, but you still have a presence.

 

i try to erase you from my mind and create new memories at places that we've been to but i can't escape from the images.

 

you're self-interested and compassionate at the same time.

 

i want to give up on you and then continue to pursue you.  with you it's a never ending chase.

Friends

since we're no longer fb or fwb or lovers or any other synonym for those, i just wanted to make sure that we're on the same page. 

i really don't want a pretense of friendship if you're just trying to be nice and not burn any bridges.  the last thing i want is for you to put on an act since that doesn't last.  no one can keep on a farce of friendship indefinitely.

i'm embracing this friendship and trying to dissolve any romantic feelings that i have for you.  but tbh, i don't know if my subconscious is embracing this friendship because 1) i still harbor feelings for you and 2) maybe i still secretly hope that you'll develop feelings for me.

maybe once i fall out of love with you i'll no longer desire to be friends with you. 

From another website - my heart, my gut, my brain, and my vag

My Brain, My Gut, My Heart and My Vag

October 27, 2010

tags: dating, making decisions, relationships

As I mentioned a couple weeks ago, there has been some turbulence in my relationship with Tom. We had an awful fight, broke up, then missed each other and got back together.
Right after we split, I really didn’t think I’d want to see him again. But then I did. I was confused and didn’t know what to do.
There was a little voice inside of me. And then another. And another. And another. The only one that made sense was the one insisting that I eat more French fries.
These voices came from four highly opinionated body parts: my brain, my gut, my heart and my vag.
These crazy bitches bark orders and advice at me incessantly, often at the same time. They are all saying something different, and sometimes I’m not sure who’s saying what. It can be quite maddening.
“Go out with Fred again, he’s hot and funny!” Wait… is that my brain talking… or my vag? I really want to go out with him again, so maybe it’s my gut. My heart jumps whenever he calls… so maybe it’s my heart talking. Shit, I don’t know.
Let me introduce you to the players:
My Brain
In a nutshell, my brain is a workaholic. She overthinks, overanalyzes, and considers then reconsiders every possible angle of every situation.
I’m a cerebral chick, I know that. I always want to make the right decision but never know what it is, so I think and think and think until my eyeballs bleed. And then if I ever do make a decision, I’m never sure if it’s the best one, so I think and rethink some more.
I implore you, lobotomize her immediately and put her out of her misery.
My Heart
Ah, my heart. She is… damaged. The wear and tear on this item should qualify me for a newer model, but sadly, we’re only allotted one per lifetime.
Sometimes she’s afraid to speak up, largely because my brain often tells her what an idiot she’s been in the past. Nevertheless, when she does speak, she speaks volumes.
Folks often say, “Follow your heart.” And despite all the risks this might involve, somehow, I still want to believe it. And it’s why I gave Tom a second chance.
My Vag
This little bitch always gets me into trouble. When she gets lonely, there’s no telling what she’ll do. I think it’s fairly common knowledge that the best decisions are not made by your hoo-ha — but she’s crafty.
She talks to the other organs while I’m not looking to try and sway them over to her side. She’s very charismatic and persuasive — much like Jim Jones, or Dakota Fanning.
She’s also a master ventriloquist. She’ll say something and I’ll swear it’s my brain talking. Gotta keep an eye on this one. When she doesn’t behave I’ll sometimes threaten another Brazilian, but she remains undeterred.
My Gut
When people tell me, “Trust your gut, it’s never wrong,” I want to kick them in the nards. It sounds like sound advice on the surface, but not when your gut has multiple personality disorder.
One day, my gut says, “Leave Tom! You don’t have anything in common and it’s just wrong!” The next day, she says, “Don’t dismiss it so fast! You have a great connection and he’s an amazing guy!”
Very rarely do I experience an overwhelming “gut instinct.” Sometimes I think I do — but it changes by the hour. How can I trust my gut when she’s so damn wishy washy?

***

I have always envied people who can make a decision on the spot and never look back. Perhaps their brain, heart, gut and vag all get along and make a team decision. Or maybe one of them is the captain and always calls the shots.
But mine just can’t seem to get their shit together. I’ve got the Bad News Bears playing inside of me and we lose every time.
The Scarecrow, the Tin Man, the Cowardly Lion and Dorothy searched all of Oz for these four items. (In the original version, Dorothy asked the Wizard for a vag. That’s why she’s so popular with the gays.)
I want to tell them that these organs really aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. In fact, they can have mine — I’ve had enough.
From now on, I’m leaving all my decisions up to my buttocks.

***

What do you listen to most when making relationship decisions? How is that working out for you?